1. Loss and the Mourning After
There is no quota system. Having one major loss does not excuse you from others. This book will help you cope with present and future losses.
2. First Responses to a Major Loss
Whatever your reaction is to the bad news, it will be normal and okay.
3. Sudden Loss or Prolonged Loss
All major losses happen either suddenly or gradually. In the long run, the grief process is about the same.
4. Recovering Your Balance
When you experience a major loss, it seems the rug of life has been jerked out from under you. Your first task is getting back on your feet.
5. Perception: the Key to Healing
Perception is what we “see” from inside our head. It is the way we interpret the events of our lives.
6. Steps to Recovery
Life seems shattered in a million pieces. Your challenge is to make it whole again.
7. The Inward Search
Any major loss is first and foremost a personal experience. Only those who have been there themselves can begin to understand your pain.
8. Four Key Facts About Grief
Learning the four axioms of grief recovery will help you take control of it. Like all axioms, they are true whether we like it or not.
9. Start Now.
Today is a better day to begin the work of grief recovery than tomorrow.
10 Grief and Growth
You already know grief is about losing. You need to know that it can also be about growing.
11. A Test of Endurance
Grief Recovery begins with 365 days of the first time on that date you are without the person or thing that you lost.
12. Beliefs that Help or Hurt
Religious beliefs are a central element in grief recovery. How they affect you depends on whether you use or abuse them.
13. Quiet Losses
Some losses are more difficult to talk about with others. However, for healing to take place, the silence needs to be broken.
14. Children and Grief
Children feel the loss of a loved one as much as an adult. They just don’t have the words tell others about their feelings.
15. Losses in Later Life
Older people are often denied support and understanding because younger people have a faulty perception that their losses hurt less.
16. Making New Discoveries
Those who have conquered grief will tell you more about what they have discovered than what they lost.
17. Significant Points Along the Way
Certain times after a major loss stand out. Each one is a time of discovering something new and something to release from the past.
18. Choosing to Live Again
Creating a new normal for your life begins with a simple but challenging decision: You must decide to live again.
19. Opening New Doors
The pressure is no longer so much what you have to do as it is what you want to do. It is time to move on.,
20. Your Own Best Friend
Somewhere between the first and second anniversaries of your loss you will discover a new best friend—yourself.